He doesn’t choose you.

When he betrays you.

When he never -

never -

comes back for you.

When you fight as hard as you can -

when you throw every scrap of all that you are and have ever been -

at him, and into this -

and it all crumbles, futile.

When he doesn’t choose you.

When he respects you

But he will never choose you.

And he will never come back.



A woman in her glory, a woman of beauty, is a woman who is not striving to become beautiful or worthy or enough. She knows in her quiet center where God dwells that he finds her beautiful, has deemed her worthy, and in him, she is enough.

-Stasi Eldredge, Captivating

(sidebar: I don’t agree with much of Captivating‘s theology, but it did have a few excellent chapters)


In the parable, the debt-free man sings and skips out of the presence of the king. But then he collars the poor man who owes him a piddling amount, and we know he missed it all. He failed to recognize himself in that pitiful man, a fellow debtor. He sees himself instead in the role of the master. And he fails that role as well.

He misses this essential fact: Forgiveness is not for his personal freedom and happiness alone. It’s to bring freedom and restoration to all, especially to those who owe him. It’s to bring the mercy of God among us frail humans, waiting for redemption in a broken world. This right response to God’s forgiveness is so serious and essential to the Christian life that Jesus warns the disciples after teaching them the Lord’s Prayer, “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matt. 6:14–15). God is not hinging his forgiveness on our release of others’ debts—his salvation doesn’t depend on any action on our part. Still, it’s clear God requires forgiven people to be forgiving people.

-Forgiving the Sins of My Father